You’re Already Living Your Best Life—You Just Forgot to Notice

Many of us—scratch that, most of us—are itching to hit the big time tomorrow.

To close that deal, smash those money goals, find the perfect relationship. And when we do is when life will finally make sense. That’s when happiness will skyrocket into stratospheric levels. Peace will be our ride-or-die, and custom angels will hover around us 24/7, personal assistants at our beck and call.

We’ll proclaim shout to the world: I’M LIVING MY BEST LIFE!

Damn right, son!

But there’s a catch here. All of these payoffs live in the future. That’s the whole point, isn’t it? Heaven forbid we’re content just twiddling our thumbs. As humans, don’t we always need something to chase?

… takes a moment to wipe the sarcasm off his lips

Fine. But let’s just play along for a second, shall we? What if—just what if—you’re already living your best life right now? What if you already have everything you need to be happy? Would that scare you because it means there’s nothing left to look forward to?

Or would it finally relieve you of the intense pressure you’ve cooked up for yourself—the pressure to be someone, do something, achieve everything by an arbitrary deadline that you probably borrowed from scrolling through your feed and catching a bad case of comparisonitis?

Let’s be real: we’ve built an entire economy on “you’re not enough.” The fitness industry, self-help books, productivity apps—they all hiss into your head Voldemort-style: “You’re not there yet. But buy this, and maybe you’ll get closer.”

Avada Kedavra out of my face! It’s exhausting.

Now, if you expect me to hand you the answers on a silver platter, I’m sorry—not happening. These questions are yours to wrestle with. You’ve got to go through your own messy journey to figure it out. And spoiler alert: the answer is never obvious.

But I’ll share a couple of thoughts that keep me sane when I’ve downed a few espressos and spiraling:

First—yes, we humans always need something to look forward to. It doesn’t have to be a million-dollar payday or leaving a massive dent in the universe (ugh, I hate that phrase). It could be as simple as finding a hobby that lights you up—a little obsession that excites you to wake up every day.

Second—I ask myself this question constantly: Do I already have everything I need? And if I’m being brutally honest with myself, the answer is almost always yes.

Do I want more? Sure.
Do I need more? Ugh… no.

Last week, I caught myself doom-scrolling through my feed—phuck you, algo—and stumbled on people jet-setting around the globe in private planes. Did I care about the champagne or designer luggage? Nope, not at all. What I envied was their ability to skip airport traffic entirely (because who in their right mind loves airport chaos?!).

Then my kid yelled at me from across the room: “Pops, let’s go, we’re late!” And reality snapped back into focus. As I drove him to class—he eating a granola bar, which, I bet you with my life, will be crumbled across the seat like the Milky Way—I had this moment of clarity.. And in that imperfect, unglamorous, mundane moment, I realized: This is enough. Not because it was perfect, but because it was mine.

And yeah—I know these feelings will ping-pong back and forth in my head forever. One day I’ll feel content, the next day I’ll want more again. But honestly? Ping-pong is a fun game. Who said we can’t travel freely in our heads between gratitude and ambition?

So before you go warping off into distant galaxies like a Star Trekker chasing tomorrow’s dreams, hold onto this thought:

You already have everything you need, and you can still chase those wild dreams with all the passion in the world.

It doesn’t have to be an either/or situation—it can be an AND. You don’t have to postpone joy for some arbitrary milestone in the future.

Imagine living with both contentment and ambition—present and future—not thinking “I’ll be happy when…” but instead saying “I’m happy now and…”

That’s what I imagine as living your best life.

If you’re waiting for someone to give you permission to act, here you go. I’m giving it to you. Want fiercely. Chase boldly. Act crazily. But don’t let tomorrow’s dreams make today taste like wet sand. Wet sand isn’t exactly gourmet. No offense to any wet sand enthusiasts out there.

Friend, your best life isn’t waiting for you at some finish line—it’s here now, tangled up in all the laughter, tears, and occasional madness of this wild ride called life.

So, let’s roll with it, embracing the messy mix of imperfection, ambition, and contentment.

That’s all for today.

See you next Thursday.

Much love,

Parves